Thank You

For my dear mentor and much loved friend, Actor, Director, Writer, Teacher,

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Cliff Osmond
1935-2012

Sometimes when it’s late at night
and everything is cold,
I think about you
and I feel warm inside.
Maybe I’ve neglected you
and so it’s time you’re told
You have helped me make it
through the night.
I’ve been down and out
and you were there.
I’ve been less than kind sometimes
I know.
I don’t have to see your face
to know you care
‘Cause you’ve been a friend to me…
Thank you,
for being there forever
yeah, for being by my side.
You know I love you
and need you too
Thank you

Shirley Hanna-King

Song lyrics Motown
Copyright Hanna music/ASCAP

Mother

This is not a poem written for my own mother.  I wrote it long ago, to the kind of mother I hoped to be.

There’s not a day goes by, Mom dear20130309-031953.jpg
I don’t thank God for you,
for every week and month and year,
for everything you do.
You taught me with a woman’s heart
courage has no gender.
You let me know and always showed
the strength in being tender.
There are no words dear Mother mine.
If so, I’d shout them loud.
Instead, I’ll try to live a life
I know will make you proud.

Shirley Hanna-King

 

Don’t fix me

You don’t need to fix me darlin’
I will be just fine
You don’t need to pave the way for me
Just let me have what’s mine

You don’t need to be a savior
there is nothing here to save.
I am different, that ain’t broken
we’re all better off this way

You don’t need to fix me darlin’
I just hope you understand
We’re all crazy. Let’s admit it
and enjoy it while we can.

Shirley Hanna-King
©Hanna Music

Adapting is not for humans.

It’s human nature to want to fit in, be accepted, belong. It only becomes a problem  when people don’t understand (are not raised to understand) that wanting to fit in is nature’s way of telling us to conform. It’s nature’s motivation for us to leave the nest and seek our own kind. We are as humans and adventurous lot. We are curious. We used to have to walk over the hill to see what it was on the other side. Now we can trailers of the universe with a remote control. We don’t have to leave the nest anymore to satisfy our sense of adventure. The bad news is it’s made us physically lazy, fat and complacent. We are no longer so un atisfied with whatever  neighborhood, job or family unit we are in that we’re motivated to find our tribe. Instead we watch them on TV. We feel connected to these people that are like us without realizing the emotional deprivation we are experiencing is akin to any other relationship where we are ignored.

Humans are meant (and need) to physically look for the  people and place we fit into. That means finding others who like what we have to offer, like who we are innately. Sometimes that’s the place where you’re born but more often than not-not. It’s natural to fear leaving what we know but it’s only when we find our “tribe” that we discover we fit in, anywhere. It’s natural to be affected by the feelings of our loved ones but we’re re not supposed to adapt or camouflage to the environment we happen to be in (long term). Wayfair to lose touch with “home” so we linger and conform. That’s not living, that survival. It’s a great tool for certain animals. We (humans) have a different skill set, including compasses and a multitude of ways to “phone home”.